We do not know of any difference of opinion concerning that either. I wish i could help u but Im too embarrassed to ask. Aisha (ra) said: The Messenger of Allaah, sallallahu alihi wasalam, was asked about a man who notices some wetness but does not remember having a wet dream. Can you kindly elaborate this ahadeth that if a woman, donkey and black dog passes in front of you your prayers are anulled? Having said this, I want to encourage mothers to inform and educate their daughters about such dreams. Explain the wet dream in exact words as if you were to explain it to your daughter. Pour . Whenever I was in need of something, I would slip away for I disliked to face him.. When is ghusl required and when is it mustahabb? So, this is not obsession, it is giving it its fair due. Also as for my doubt on having wet dream I want to ignore it as I feel if I should perform ghusl, same thing might happen again tommorow. Barakallahu Feek, dear Hadith Check for your kind words . I think I did post the 3 positions on mastrubation, 1. For instance if I tell you dont think about a pink elephant what happens? Question: If she sees extra vaginal discharge but is sure that she didnt have any dream of sexual nature at all? But sometimes scenarios are different; could you please be so kind to give me answers to few scenarios? I am a bit hurt and shocked. The issue of whether masturbation is permissable or not is an area of disagreement, as there are no explicit evidences to prohibit it. They asked with the utmost modesty with Umm Sulaym beginning with Allah is not too shy to tell us the truth and Umm Salamah covering her face when asking RasoolAllaah sallallhu alayhee wsalam, who was her husband, her brief question?? I would have appreciate knowing ways to reduce the frequency to avoid having to take 3 showers in one night, if for no other reason :). In another hadth, the Prophet (peace be upon him) confirmed that a woman had to perform ghusl: if she sees the liquid. [Sahh al-Bukhr and Sahh Muslim]. Sheikh Al-Albani also graded this hadith as hasan in Sahih Ibn Majah. When I checked afterwards, I discovered Id left a large wet spot. Im an unmarried female who dont know about wet dream. Interacting with married folks on personal matters. and Allah knows best. Intention to Uplift Major Sexual Impurities, Semen Is Impure; Not Obligatory to Wash Beddings that Have Not Been Stained by It, Applied Moisturizing Cream on Her Body: Is Ghusl Valid, His Wife Masturbated Him: Ghusl Is Not Obligatory on Her, Had Intercourse and Took a Shower without Intending Ghusl, Religions, Sects and Da'wah (Call to Islam), Jinaayaat (Criminology) and Islamic Judicial System, Islamic Politics and International Affairs, Medical Issues, Media, Culture and Means of Entertainment. i am in condition that i feel my self as a patient. Discharge can be more wet or more dry, and be more or less thick or viscous. but when she wakes up and no wetness then thats fine although its better to perform ghusl. or i didnt had any wetness in the first place? It is also advised not to drink excessive fluids before going to bed or sleeping on a full stomach. [Ibn Abidin, Radd al-Muhtar], Madhi when it comes to women is the wetness found while being aroused before reaching an orgasm. Recently, its been happening alot, it never used to happen before and Im 19 so it probably would have happened before if it was to do with puberty but it never did. Saba Syed (aka Umm Reem) is the author of International award winning novel, "An Acquaintance." Secondly, there is no haya in issues concerning the deen. Answer. I told my husband and he thinks it may be an infection. in my dreams. Do you still have to do ghusl? They always ask lots of needless questions. Here is that hadith for those who are interested: Narrated by Khawlah Bint Hakeem, who asked the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) if a woman should make ghusl when she has a sexual dream, he (peace be upon him) said: No ghusl on her unless she has a discharge, similarly there is not ghusl on the man unless he ejaculates. (Related by Ahmad, Al-Nasai, Ibn Majah, and Ibn Abi Shaybah). I would say just start talking about it. There is haya in all the issues concerning the deen, for haya is part of eeman too, but what I think the sister meant is that having haya does not prevent some one from seeking knowledge in the deen. what should she do? Please give me answers and let me be out of my miseries =(Im serious I feel very bad and most of the websites i studied from make me feel like i am a bad muslim. Obviously the daughter was totally unaware of what she was doing. How can she know if it is the same wetness before sleeping or if she needs ghusl. These cookies help provide information on metrics the number of visitors, bounce rate, traffic source, etc. Umm Sulaym (may Allaah be pleased with her), who asked the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) about a woman who sees a dream like a man sees (i.e., an erotic dream). but recently stoped after finding out. He is an active instructor at SeekersGuidance and answers questions through the SeekersGuidance Answers Service. If it is in reference to masturbation, then please be reminded that mastrubation is haramnevertheless a person must make ghusal. 3. If you had an orgasm, you should make ghusal, Assalamualaikum Sister, do i have to take ghusl if I have wetness that is caused by arousal ? `Aishah said: Someone asked the Prophet (peace be upon him) about a man seeing himself discharging in his dream though he does not feel wet. Hence, I decided to contribute this piece, along with the help of a professional Gynecologist, Dr. Fatimah Lalani and Shaykh Yasir Qadhi, so it may help and benefit all the sisters who read this. i am confused about this. She studied Arabic Language & Literature at Qatar University and at Cairo Institute in Egypt. The cookie is used to store the user consent for the cookies in the category "Performance". A side note about making the intention, the place of the intention is in the heart, and saying our intention out loud is not from the sunnah. Until we talk about it, we will not be able to fix them. The place for the intention is in the heart, meaning you know that you are standing to pray maghrib 3 rakahs, so you dont have to say it out loud. What Should I Do after Seeing a Wet Dream. Islam Q&A, You can ask your question on the website via this link: https://islamqa.info/en/ask, Password should contain small, capital letter and at least 8 characters long, Log in And Allah Taala ( ) knows best. Something similar to that was narrated from Umar and Uthmaan, and that was stated by Ibn Abbaas, Ataa, Saeed ibn Jubayr, ash-Shabi, an-Nakhai, al-Hasan, Mujaahid, Qataadah, Maalik, ash-Shaafai, and Ishaaq, because what appears to be the case is that it was emitted during a wet dream, and he forgot. Alhamdulillaah I make wudu before I go to skeep but subhanAllaah Im still having wet dreams vey frequently. 1. The bottom line is that if one is sure that what one sees is not sperm then one does not have to do anything provided that no wet dream was seen. Just wondering if theres a hadith to this? Answer: Vaginal discharge does not necessitate ghusl, no problems here. While this post is for females, I will try to answer your question here. I cannot imagine anyone in their right mind saying yes. How can you agree with someones opinion over RasoolAllaah sallallhu alayhee wsalam? Even having thought like hugging your future husband and all is also haram? But opting out of some of these cookies may affect your browsing experience. Dont you think men are getting excited over this? 4. I read on a website that if a woman has sexual thoughts and discharges then her wudu becomes invalid. Most of my teen students learned about these issues from their classmates during 3rd and 4th grade. i apologise about this, I dont know why im having such a difficult time with this. If she does not know what an orgasm feels like etc?? The irony is we seem ill at ease with discourse about intimacy and sexuality whilst the greatness of our faith waits for us to seek the knowledge revealed 1400 hundred years ago. like she didnt know it was bad to touch self and stuff. This is not a very accurate statement. Allaah knows best why that happened. 5. I dont get why people need to reduce the frequency of wet dreams that they have, it is not like it is in their hands nor will Allah hold them accountable for it because it is not something wrong in of itself.. Anything that i hear im worried that itll be converted into a sexual thought . Remember, if a matter is doubtful the certainty takes over, i.e. Thanks for adding this comment because I was about to add a comment asking this question. If you have a sexual dream without an orgasm do you have to do your ghusl again? Jazakillahi khayran for writing this article! Necessary cookies are absolutely essential for the website to function properly. Question # 372: Wet Dream (Ihtilaam) while Fasting Sister, I was referring to this hadith: Jazkullah khayrun for your responses. At what age do wet dreams usually start? Why is masturbation not allowed? it is hard to explain a female ejaculation but if she had an orgasm she has to take a shower. I know this is haram but is she has to ghusl? No doubt one most ask in order to educate themselves. He began searching far and wide for answers to the fundamental questions of life and was disappointed at the answers he found. Although it was classed as Sahih by Al-Albani, it seems to be more correct that its defects are too much to be considered as such. tahara without which salat is not valid. Im sorry for being so explicit, but this is just porn covered with an Islamic label. No shy or arrogant person will ever seek knowledge.. is that considered masturbation even if i never rubbed or inserted anything into my vagina. One thing to add which is relevant to the topic is that if a woman has a wet dream during her menstrual period, then she still performs ghusl from the wet dream, even if it wont make a difference in terms of performing the prayers because she isnt praying anyways, and Allah knows best. So Im not quiet understanding when is the time i need to do ghusl. And I am very confused. It is not allowed at that point to use ones own hands or any instrument to insert or rub vaginal area to reach orgasm and feel satisfied. The cookie is set by GDPR cookie consent to record the user consent for the cookies in the category "Functional". Some time ago, I gave a series of lectures on Taharah (cleanliness) to the sisters in my community. 3. and she needs to evaluate the situation why these thoughts keeping coming back to herif she is interacting with that man then she should stop if she can. What am I to do? Regular vaginal discharge has left many sisters confused as to whether a) it is najis (impure) therefore requiring her to wash off undergarments and legs b) it breaks one's wudu . Its so cold here more over i am getting symptoms of flu its hard to take shower daily i really need proper guidance, If you didnt have an orgasm, you dont need to take a showeran Allah knows best. Praise be to Allah. I am so glad I found this article. If things need to be explained to you in detail or Anything else that worries you Go ask a real scholar with haya. Your email address will not be published. Asalamualaykum, in your article of wet dreams.. Yasir Qahdi said in one of his answers.. of whether or not you can see any impurity). Praise be to Allah. (sorry i will be slightly descriptive, please forgive me, but i need the right answer so i know im doing things correct) So i went to check and i had a very faint..very faint brown or really light brown spot on my pantie liner. Some people believe that wet dreams will reduce a man's sperm count. 2. Umm Salamah said: Umm Sulaym came to the Messenger of Allah, sallallahu alihi wasalam, and said, O Messenger of Allah, Allah is not too shy to tell us the truth. 2: [correct me if im wrong ] but i dont think thats a problem as long as youre covered. The same goes for all other acts of worship like prayer, wudu the intention should not be said or pronounced out loud, and a person should have the intention in their heart only, and it should not be uttered with the tongue because this is not from the sunnah. Khimar meaning a cloth covering her body from head down to her feet. vaguely recalls something but is not sure either), again keeping in mind that extra vaginal discharge could be completely hormonal or due to the normal menstrual cycle? If one sees a dream in which one has sexual intercourse but does not notice any semen or wetness when one wakes up, ghusl is not necessary. Can I safely assume that the discharge is just regular and does not fall under the ruling of discharge from sexual arousal? I would recommend that if you know Arabic that you look at Sheikh Al-Albanis takhreej of this hadith in his Silsila Sahiha under hadith # 2863, his commentary on it might be of benefit inshaAllah. narrated by al-Bukhaari(510) and Muslim (507). Brother Dean, I dont think there is anything wrong with discussing this issue, but I do agree that going too much into details may be better discussed in private among the women alone. How do you explain orgasm to your non married daughter? and also if she had only orgasm no dream just before she wake up she got orgasm .. with out any vaginal discharge ..she has to make ghushal? He said, He does not have to do ghusl. Umm Salamah said, O Messenger of Allah, does a woman have to do ghusl if she sees something like that? He said, Yes, women are the twin halves of men. (Tirmidhi, Abu Dawood). assalam alaikum dear umm reem Rather, as in many places in the shariah, one has to return to ones common sense and ones observation based on what one is reasonably sure of (ghalaba al-Dhann). p.s so sorry for my bad grammar. I was asked: 1. Can you please clarify? I want to understand if doubts lead to different ruling or not) 3.1. if in this situation I see wet spot on my underwear, but cant understand whats that, do I have to bath? When I feel something I think its orgasm and since Im not sure of the characteristics of maniy, I will think any discharge I see is maniy. Wet Dreams 101 Tips To Stop Night Fall | Mr Mind Blowing But my problem is I dont know the characteristic of maniy do Im not sure if I discharged it or not. I wish there were someone to help me. I saw the Prophet praying while I used to lie in my bed between him and the Qibla. I would like to know how exactly do you know if you had a wet dream if you dont recall it. Al-Bahr Ar-Raa'iq reads: We donot say that Ghusl is obligatory because of Mathy, butbecause Maniyy becomes thin after a long period and looks just like Mathy but it is not really Mathy; this is regarding when some sleeping wakes up and finds wetness., However, the Hanbali and the Maaliki schools of jurisprudence hold that if a person knows that it is Mathy, then he is not obliged to perform Ghusl. As for how to use the bathroom, I use high quality toilet paper, then moist wipes, and then always wash my hands twice, with hot soapy water, for at least thirty seconds. What I worry about is, as we lie down during a nap, especially when its short, may be the sexual discharge is gathered inside but didnt flow out yet as it happens in standing position and if we urinate it will flow out with urine and we will never see/feel it and will think we dont need a ghusl while we actually need it. I washed myself and went to work thinking of all this again (and probably had more wetness appearing therefore) and when I came to work after few hours in toilet I felt that wetness again. Whatever the details its to do with us women! Generally it is more common amongst teenagers and frequency reduces as you grow up (and get married giving an alternate release for your hormonal buildup). A kind of bitter sweet feeling of knowing how much peace it would bring to those with raging hormones and deep seated guilt about the workings of biology they cant quite control but their beautiful religion could guide them were they to have access to the knowledge. If she did have an orgasm, it will automatically imply the sexual discharge too. ?is ghusl only necessary when a woman sees a yellow fluid when she wakes up from sleep?? How do they look, what is their composition to differ them? Am I to just live in my bathroom? I had an orgasm from a sex dream during Ramadan. Here is what you do: If a woman has a wet dream whilst she is on her period, is she required to do gusl as soon as possible as she is not praying anyway? All it takes is a small gift from a reader like you to keep us going, for just $2 / month. Many sisters are ignorant of these issues because they havent looked into it properly. What if you feel the strong thrust but did not have the wet dream and no discharge? Rather it is Umm Sulaym asking the question. No doubt sister, one must ask in order to educate themselves. Source: jazakAllaahu for the reply. Or just in front in general, because then things could get a little dicey where praying in public is concerned. He studied numerous texts in Islamic Law, Theology, Hadith, and other areas with Shaykh Faraz Rabbani and other teachers, including Shaykh Abdurrahman al-Shaar, Shaykh Ali Hani, and others. I've never had a wet dream in my life : r/teenagers - Reddit This fatwa states the differences between the discharges of women. and Allah knows best, i am sort of confused it is actually a huge problem if we get such things in our dream and have to take a shower on daly basis especially in Pakistans chilling weather. With regards to your statement there is no haya in issues concerning the deen, Shaykh Ibn Uthaymeen (may Allaah have mercy on him) said:The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: Shyness is part of faith. So shyness in religion is part of faith, but when someone says There is no shyness in religion, what he means is that there is no shyness in matters of religion, i.e., in asking about something concerning which one may feel shy. Sex and the Ummah Series | New Initiative: Like a Garment | Yasir Qadhi, Dealing With Homosexual Urges: Yasir Qadhi to Muslim Student. what if i first wash my entire body with soap and shampoo and then do the wadhu? I want to mention that I was amazed at the level of shyness sisters feel in asking questions, Pingback: Sexual Activities Beyond The Norm: What Should We Teach Our Teens | MuslimMatters.org.